Romancing the Stone

In numerous convos with my girlfriends one subject seems to resonate throughout, sometimes it can just be so hard to get emotion out of the stones we call husbands and boyfriends. Men are just the less emotionally driven sex lets face it. So while their intent may not be malevolent, overtime it can be harder and harder for them to display their amorous affections. They're comfortable, they're complacent....they're MEN! But there are ways to romance those stones and keep those fires burning. They work two-fold; allowing you to shower your man with the love he deserves while giving him reasons to reciprocate it 20 times over, naturally. Forcing emotion out of someone is unnatural and unreal, but everyone needs a boost from time to time, and men are no different. Here are four little things I think you can do that I'm sure will get a rise out of your man...pun definitely intended!

• Mail him a nice card at work- If he's able to receive it that is. Keep the message short and very sweet; something that he can quickly read over and won't risk getting caught reading by his colleagues. Most men are VERY personal about things close to their heart, and that's why they battle with displaying emotions-remember that. If you can't mail your man a card find another way to get a sexy message to him. Fold a note in his towel or in his shirt for the next morning. Put it on the seat of his car or in the back pocket of his jeans. Either way, surprise him with a written display of your love. The element of surprise makes anyone feel special, and guys love to think they're the center of your universe. Let him know you're always thinking about him even when he least expects it! It will elate him, no doubt!
• Buy him a gift for no reason at all- And in this case, less is more. Try to find something small and close to your man's heart and present him with it. Think a nice t-shirt from his favorite sports team, a movie or TV series he loved as a child on DVD etc. Make sure its as unpretentious and personal as possible. Guys actually love things that are directly connected to them. So think small for a big impact.
• Give him a massage- There's a reason after thousands of years this still works. Give your man a nice kneading, but take it up a notch. Think about your spa experiences and reproduce them for him. Light votives and play exotic music. Use a nice massage oil and go to work. Touch everything from his head to his feet. Women are not the only ones who need to be pampered...you want the best from your man, he deserves the best too. Mommies, your Boppy pillow doubles as a nice headrest for a full body massage. Place it at the head of your bed, drape a white or ivory sheet over for a makeshift massage table. Don't forgo any details when massaging your man. He may have had one before, but never one like this...make it an experience for him!
• Indulge his sense-of vision of course. Men are definitely the more visually stimulated of the two sexes, so give him what he wants. Take advantage of what seems to be a booming collection at Victoria's Secret (because Vicky's def has dry spells from time to time) and dress up for him...but really dress up for him! Make yourself as beautiful as you possibly can. Burn the image into his brain for weeks to come by stepping out of your own box. If you usually choose lingeries that are racy and in your face-opt for something sweet & demure and vice versa. Make this evening the only evening its okay to sleep in your make-up. Its a universal theory-guys need to see it to react to it-give him something to react on ;)

Guys are always a conundrum and they will take eternity to completely figure out. Don't be discouraged by their displays of nonchalance or take it personally. Men are men...don't they always need a little boost for something? Balance it out by showering your man with little random acts of am ore'. I guarantee the results will work in your favor. Of course your man has to really love you...even these tips won't work on a jerk! Try this if the rock of your life can sometimes be just that...a stone...trust me there's a soft center in there...you just have to get to it....LOVE!

Not every woman is comfortable parading around in lingerie...but she should be! Look for my upcoming blog on Lingerie for Comfort of All Things where I'll show you my picks for body conscious lingerie you can wow in....LOVE